93 Toxic Parent Quotes to Help You Heal and Move Forward

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1. “Practice self-care and self-love to overcome the negative messages from your toxic parents and rewire your brain for positivity.

Practice self-care and self-love to overcome the negative messages from your toxic parents and rewire your brain for positivity.

2. “Toxic parents will ignore bonding and spending time with you and will prefer taking care of their careers more than you.

– Sara

Sara Quote: “Toxic parents will ignore bonding and spending time with you and will prefer taking care of their careers more than you.”

3. “Breaking free from toxic parents takes courage, but it’s worth it to live a life of freedom, joy, and self-love.

Breaking free from toxic parents takes courage, but it’s worth it to live a life of freedom, joy, and self-love.

4. “Toxic parents often use guilt, shame, and fear to manipulate their children and keep them under their control.

Toxic parents often use guilt, shame, and fear to manipulate their children and keep them under their control.

5. “Set boundaries with your toxic parents to protect your mental and emotional well-being.

Set boundaries with your toxic parents to protect your mental and emotional well-being.

6. “Toxic parents can turn their children into people-pleasers, who prioritize their parents’ needs and desires over their own, leaving them feeling empty, unfulfilled, and resentful.

Toxic parents can turn their children into people-pleasers, who prioritize their parents’ needs and desires over their own, leaving them feeling empty, unfulfilled, and resentful.

7. “Along with the trust issues, one of the hardest parts to deal with is the feeling of not being believed or supported, especially by your own grandparents and extended family.

– Erin Merryn

Erin Merryn Quote: “Along with the trust issues, one of the hardest parts to deal with is the feeling of not being believed or supported, especially by your own grandparents and extended family.”

8. “My parents shame me for every mistake I make, which hurts my feelings and mental health.

– Olivia

Olivia Quote: “My parents shame me for every mistake I make, which hurts my feelings and mental health.”

9. “Having toxic parents or a toxic family is more challenging than those with relatively functional families can imagine.

Having toxic parents or a toxic family is more challenging than those with relatively functional families can imagine.

10. “Parents who belittle, criticize, and manipulate their children create an environment of fear, shame, and guilt, which can have long-lasting negative effects on their mental health.

Parents who belittle, criticize, and manipulate their children create an environment of fear, shame, and guilt, which can have long-lasting negative effects on their mental health.

11. “The best way to raise positive children in a negative world is to have positive parents who love them unconditionally.

– Zig Ziglar

Zig Ziglar Quote: “The best way to raise positive children in a negative world is to have positive parents who love them unconditionally.”

12. “The first step in coping with toxic parents is to recognize that their behavior is not your fault and that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness

The first step in coping with toxic parents is to recognize that their behavior is not your fault and that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness

13. “Selfish parents may someday realize what damage they have done that can never be undone.

Selfish parents may someday realize what damage they have done that can never be undone.

14. “Focus on building a life filled with love, joy, and positive relationships, regardless of your toxic parents’ presence

Focus on building a life filled with love, joy, and positive relationships, regardless of your toxic parents’ presence

15. “No child should ever have to bear the burden of parenting their own parents. To toxic parents, you existed to serve them all the time.

– Kim Saeed

Kim Saeed Quote: “No child should ever have to bear the burden of parenting their own parents. To toxic parents, you existed to serve them all the time.”

16. “The bond between a parent and child is unbreakable, no matter the circumstances.

The bond between a parent and child is unbreakable, no matter the circumstances.

17. “Toxic parents create a toxic environment that can cause long-term damage to their children’s mental and emotional health.

Toxic parents create a toxic environment that can cause long-term damage to their children’s mental and emotional health.

18. “It is the selfish parents who are to blame. Pay attention, be involved in your children’s lives. They are your legacy, your only hope.

– Aaron B. Powell

Aaron B. Powell Quote: “It is the selfish parents who are to blame. Pay attention, be involved in your children’s lives. They are your legacy, your only hope.”

19. “Parents forgive their children least readily for the faults they themselves instilled in them.

– Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach

Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach Quote: “Parents forgive their children least readily for the faults they themselves instilled in them.”

20. “Practice assertiveness and communicate your boundaries calmly and firmly with your toxic parents.

Practice assertiveness and communicate your boundaries calmly and firmly with your toxic parents.

21. “Toxic parents demand respect without giving it, create conflict and drama, and manipulate their children into thinking they’re the problem.

Toxic parents demand respect without giving it, create conflict and drama, and manipulate their children into thinking they’re the problem.

22. “When you grieve toxic, abusive parents, you don’t just grieve the abuse, you grieve everything you didn’t have.

– Lily Hope Lucario

Lily Hope Lucario Quote: “When you grieve toxic, abusive parents, you don’t just grieve the abuse, you grieve everything you didn’t have.”

23. “Narcissistic parents don’t care about their children’s feelings at all. Only their feelings matter.

– Kim Saeed

Kim Saeed Quote: “Narcissistic parents don’t care about their children’s feelings at all. Only their feelings matter.”

24. “Some parents believe that granting their kids’ wishes will spoil them, so they do not like to buy them the simple things they want.

– Thomas

Thomas Quote: “Some parents believe that granting their kids’ wishes will spoil them, so they do not like to buy them the simple things they want.”

25. “Find a support system of friends, family, or a therapist who can help you navigate the challenges of dealing with toxic parents.

Find a support system of friends, family, or a therapist who can help you navigate the challenges of dealing with toxic parents.

26. “My parents keep discouraging me from pursuing my dream of becoming a doctor because they do not believe in my abilities.

– Donald

Donald Quote: “My parents keep discouraging me from pursuing my dream of becoming a doctor because they do not believe in my abilities.”

27. “They ought to accept you for who you are. Parents ought to adore their children, right? You’d assume so.

– N. R. Walker

N. R. Walker Quote: “They ought to accept you for who you are. Parents ought to adore their children, right? You’d assume so.”

28. “Forgiving your toxic parents can be a powerful step towards healing, but it doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing their behavior.

Forgiving your toxic parents can be a powerful step towards healing, but it doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing their behavior.

29. “If mental abuse was a punishable crime, a lot of parents would be in jail serving a long term.

– Maddy Malhotra

Maddy Malhotra Quote: “If mental abuse was a punishable crime, a lot of parents would be in jail serving a long term.”

30. “Embrace self-compassion and treat yourself with kindness as you navigate the challenges of dealing with toxic parents.

Embrace self-compassion and treat yourself with kindness as you navigate the challenges of dealing with toxic parents.

31. “Children of toxic parents often grow up feeling unlovable, unworthy, and afraid of intimacy.

Children of toxic parents often grow up feeling unlovable, unworthy, and afraid of intimacy.

32. “Humans can be so ugly sometimes that the ones you love the most would only love to see you fall. It’s a cruel world.

– Sidney Albury

Sidney Albury Quote: “Humans can be so ugly sometimes that the ones you love the most would only love to see you fall. It’s a cruel world.”

33. “My parents keep telling me to behave and to be ideal, but at the same time, I can see them not doing what they say.

– Daphne

Daphne Quote: “My parents keep telling me to behave and to be ideal, but at the same time, I can see them not doing what they say.”

34. “At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.

– Jane D. Hull

Jane D. Hull Quote: “At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.”

35. “No matter how much you love the person, you cannot change them. You may influence them, but at the end of the day, they must decide for themselves.

– Robert E. Baines Jr.

Robert E. Baines Jr. Quote: “No matter how much you love the person, you cannot change them. You may influence them, but at the end of the day, they must decide for themselves.”

36. “Let’s get out of the habit of telling people, ‘that’s still your mom, your dad, or your sister.’ Toxic is toxic. You are allowed to walk away from people who constantly hurt you.

– Bynnada

Bynnada Quote: “Let’s get out of the habit of telling people, ‘that’s still your mom, your dad, or your sister.’ Toxic is toxic. You are allowed to walk away from people who constantly hurt you.”

37. “You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.

– Anne Lamott

Anne Lamott Quote: “You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.”

38. “Anyone can have a child and call themselves ‘a parent.’ A real parent is someone who puts that child above their own selfish needs and wants.

Anyone can have a child and call themselves ‘a parent.’ A real parent is someone who puts that child above their own selfish needs and wants.

39. “Family or not, I will cut you off. That saying “but that’s family” means nothing if a family is toxic and means you no good.

– Morgan Sharee

Morgan Sharee Quote: “Family or not, I will cut you off. That saying “but that’s family” means nothing if a family is toxic and means you no good.”

40. “If the family you chose before your birth no longer supports your path towards fulfilling your true destiny, it is never too late to find a new tribe.

– Anthon St. Maarten

Anthon St. Maarten Quote: “If the family you chose before your birth no longer supports your path towards fulfilling your true destiny, it is never too late to find a new tribe.”

41. “Even if you understand, on one level, that your father was wrong to beat you, you may still believe he was justified.

– Susan Forward

Susan Forward Quote: “Even if you understand, on one level, that your father was wrong to beat you, you may still believe he was justified.”

42. “Weddings are never about the bride and groom. Weddings are public platforms for dysfunctional families.

– Lisa Kleypas

Lisa Kleypas Quote: “Weddings are never about the bride and groom. Weddings are public platforms for dysfunctional families.”

43. “Practice self-reflection to understand patterns and behaviors that may have been influenced by toxic parenting, and work on breaking those cycles.

Practice self-reflection to understand patterns and behaviors that may have been influenced by toxic parenting, and work on breaking those cycles.

44. “Sometimes you have to accept the fact that some people can’t handle you doing well, having the peace they don’t, or knowing how to receive kindness. Let them go.

– Lavon Fr

Lavon Fr Quote: “Sometimes you have to accept the fact that some people can’t handle you doing well, having the peace they don’t, or knowing how to receive kindness. Let them go.”

45. “A parent’s love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.

– Marion C. Garretty

Marion C. Garretty Quote: “A parent’s love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.”

46. “When people pressure you to engage in negative decisions and actions, look at them boldly in the eyes and dare them to do good.

– Edmond Mbiaka

Edmond Mbiaka Quote: “When people pressure you to engage in negative decisions and actions, look at them boldly in the eyes and dare them to do good.”

47. “The wounds of toxic parenting can be deep, but with love, therapy, and self-care, you can heal and thrive.

The wounds of toxic parenting can be deep, but with love, therapy, and self-care, you can heal and thrive.

48. “The toxic parent sees the child as a threat to their own ego and having the child overshadow the parent is not an option in their mind.

– Shannon Thomas

Shannon Thomas Quote: “The toxic parent sees the child as a threat to their own ego and having the child overshadow the parent is not an option in their mind.”

49. “Educate yourself on healthy relationships and parenting to break the cycle and create a better future for yourself and future generations.

Educate yourself on healthy relationships and parenting to break the cycle and create a better future for yourself and future generations.

50. “Parental Alienation is an emotional act of violence that is aimed at an adult but critically wounds a child.

– Steve Maraboli

Steve Maraboli Quote: “Parental Alienation is an emotional act of violence that is aimed at an adult but critically wounds a child.”

51. “People who try to bring you down every day aren’t important in your life, so you better treat their opinions as such.

– Terry Mark

Terry Mark Quote: “People who try to bring you down every day aren’t important in your life, so you better treat their opinions as such.”

52. “You don’t let go of a bad relationship because you stop caring about them. You let go because you start caring about yourself.

– Charles Orlando

Charles Orlando Quote: “You don't let go of a bad relationship because you stop caring about them. You let go because you start caring about yourself.”

53. “A toxic parent will never apologize for their behavior because they don’t see their actions as a problem. To them, you’re the one with the problem.

A toxic parent will never apologize for their behavior because they don’t see their actions as a problem. To them, you’re the one with the problem.

54. “To heal from childhood wounds, recognizing our emotions is powerful. Exploring what they are telling us and how they are affecting our lives is the big step that makes all the difference.

– Jeanne McElvaney

Jeanne McElvaney Quote: “To heal from childhood wounds, recognizing our emotions is powerful. Exploring what they are telling us and how they are affecting our lives is the big step that makes all the difference.”

55. “When a father, absent during the day, returns home at six, his children receive only his temperament, not his teaching.

– Robert Bly

Robert Bly Quote: “When a father, absent during the day, returns home at six, his children receive only his temperament, not his teaching.”

56. “See, I think there are roads that lead us to each other. But in my family, there were no roads – just underground tunnels. I think we all got lost in those underground tunnels. No, not lost. We just lived there.

– Benjamin Alire Saenz

Benjamin Alire Saenz Quote: “See, I think there are roads that lead us to each other. But in my family, there were no roads – just underground tunnels. I think we all got lost in those underground tunnels. No, not lost. We just lived there.”

57. “As long as you continue to react so strongly to them, you give them the power to upset you, which allows them to control you.

– Susan Forward

Susan Forward Quote: “As long as you continue to react so strongly to them, you give them the power to upset you, which allows them to control you.”

58. “Parenting is not about having all the answers; it’s about being there to figure them out together.

Parenting is not about having all the answers; it’s about being there to figure them out together.

59. “An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down unless you allow it to get inside you.

– Goi Nasu

Goi Nasu Quote: “An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down unless you allow it to get inside you.”

60. “If a negative viewer looks at you with an ugly fiendish eye, find a way and pluck off his eyes, or better still, protect your good image.

– Michael Bassey Johnson

Michael Bassey Johnson Quote: “If a negative viewer looks at you with an ugly fiendish eye, find a way and pluck off his eyes, or better still, protect your good image.”

61. “If all toxic moms understood the difference between healthy motherly love and toxic destructive love, they wouldn’t be toxic in the first place.

– Samuel Zulu

Samuel Zulu Quote: “If all toxic moms understood the difference between healthy motherly love and toxic destructive love, they wouldn’t be toxic in the first place.”

62. “A family can be the bane of one’s existence. A family can also be most of the meaning of one’s existence. I don’t know whether my family is bane or meaning, but they have surely gone away and left a large hole in my heart.

– Keri Hulme

Keri Hulme Quote: “A family can be the bane of one’s existence. A family can also be most of the meaning of one’s existence. I don’t know whether my family is bane or meaning, but they have surely gone away and left a large hole in my heart.”

63. “Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.

– Henry Cloud

Henry Cloud Quote: “Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.”

64. “Spanking a child is about the parent not the child. The child will learn more from positive correction than physical manipulation.

– Asa Don Brown

Asa Don Brown Quote: “Spanking a child is about the parent not the child. The child will learn more from positive correction than physical manipulation.”

65. “Love them from a distance. Pray for them, wish them well, but don’t allow them to abuse you.

– Kimber Waul

Kimber Waul Quote: “Love them from a distance. Pray for them, wish them well, but don’t allow them to abuse you.”

66. “All my life you’ve done nothing but look at me with disregard. As if I was a stranger who came into your house and pooped on your carpet.

– Egle Nutautaite

Egle Nutautaite Quote: “All my life you’ve done nothing but look at me with disregard. As if I was a stranger who came into your house and pooped on your carpet.”

67. “Denying a child, the joy and memories of being with the other parent is an act of “pure evil.

Denying a child, the joy and memories of being with the other parent is an act of “pure evil.

68. “Parenting is about guiding your children to find their own path, not paving the path for them.

Parenting is about guiding your children to find their own path, not paving the path for them.

69. “I may be the black sheep of the family, but at least I am me and not a fictitious white sheep I am not.

– Samuel Zulu

Samuel Zulu Quote: “I may be the black sheep of the family, but at least I am me and not a fictitious white sheep I am not.”

70. “The path to freedom is illuminated by the bridges you have burned, adorned by the ties you have cut, and cleared by the drama you have left behind. Let go. Be free.

– Steve Maraboli

Steve Maraboli Quote: “The path to freedom is illuminated by the bridges you have burned, adorned by the ties you have cut, and cleared by the drama you have left behind. Let go. Be free.”

71. “Acknowledge your emotions and allow yourself to grieve the loss of the loving parent-child relationship you may never have.

Acknowledge your emotions and allow yourself to grieve the loss of the loving parent-child relationship you may never have.

72. “We are all born same, we are completely cute, innocent, sweet, and we need that reflection of ourselves as little human beings to live, and I was not receiving that from my mother

– Anneke Lucas

Anneke Lucas Quote: “We are all born same, we are completely cute, innocent, sweet, and we need that reflection of ourselves as little human beings to live, and I was not receiving that from my mother”

73. “Her father had given her life, and then taken every scrap of joy or freedom, and even now that he was dead, all he had left her with was a deep, abiding hatred for what she was.

– Brenna Yovanoff

Brenna Yovanoff Quote: “Her father had given her life, and then taken every scrap of joy or freedom, and even now that he was dead, all he had left her with was a deep, abiding hatred for what she was.”

74. “Getting angry when something about their behavior is challenged in the nicest way is a typical reaction of a narcissistic parent.

– Diana Macey

Diana Macey Quote: “Getting angry when something about their behavior is challenged in the nicest way is a typical reaction of a narcissistic parent.”

75. “Your worth is not defined by the toxic parenting you endured. You have the power to create your own path.

Your worth is not defined by the toxic parenting you endured. You have the power to create your own path.

76. “Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.

– Deborah Reber

Deborah Reber Quote: “Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”

77. “When you don’t come from a healthy family, you do your best to ensure a healthy one comes from you.

– Steve Maraboli

Steve Maraboli Quote: “When you don’t come from a healthy family, you do your best to ensure a healthy one comes from you.”

78. “Too bad for any parent who has become accustomed to ruling by force, because at some point the kids just get too big to slap around.

– Barbara Ehrenreich

Barbara Ehrenreich Quote: “Too bad for any parent who has become accustomed to ruling by force, because at some point the kids just get too big to slap around.”

79. “It is a rare person who can cut himself off from mediate and immediate relations with others for long spaces of time without undergoing a deterioration in personality.

– Harry Stack Sullivan

Harry Stack Sullivan Quote: “It is a rare person who can cut himself off from mediate and immediate relations with others for long spaces of time without undergoing a deterioration in personality.”

80. “People tend to raise the child inside of them rather than the child in front of them.

– Joe Newman

Joe Newman Quote: “People tend to raise the child inside of them rather than the child in front of them.”

81. “If your parents ignored you, or if they are just not emotionally available, or if they yell a lot, that is a type of trauma.

– Tucker Max

Tucker Max Quote: “If your parents ignored you, or if they are just not emotionally available, or if they yell a lot, that is a type of trauma.”

82. “Instead of treating your child like how you were treated. Treat them with the same love and attention you wanted from your parents while growing up.

– Jonathan Anthony Burkett

Jonathan Anthony Burkett Quote: “Instead of treating your child like how you were treated. Treat them with the same love and attention you wanted from your parents while growing up.”

83. “It always amazes me, how swiftly problems can be solved, once you start cutting things off people.

– Joe Abercrombie

Joe Abercrombie Quote: “It always amazes me, how swiftly problems can be solved, once you start cutting things off people.”

84. “A toxic parent is one who uses their child as a source of emotional support and validation, instead of being a source of support and validation for their child.

A toxic parent is one who uses their child as a source of emotional support and validation, instead of being a source of support and validation for their child.

85. “Parenting is not about controlling your children, but guiding them to make their own choices.

Parenting is not about controlling your children, but guiding them to make their own choices.

86. “Toxic parents are those who undermine your worth, cut you down at every opportunity, and never let you feel good enough.

Toxic parents are those who undermine your worth, cut you down at every opportunity, and never let you feel good enough.

87. “Just because someone is your family doesn’t mean you have to keep them around if they are toxic or abusive. Don’t let people guilt you.

– Winnie Nantongo

Winnie Nantongo Quote: “Just because someone is your family doesn’t mean you have to keep them around if they are toxic or abusive. Don’t let people guilt you.”

88. “It is not flesh and blood, but the heart which makes us fathers and sons

– Johann Schiller

Johann Schiller Quote: “It is not flesh and blood, but the heart which makes us fathers and sons”

89. “Toxic parents can create a cycle of abuse and dysfunction that is passed down from one generation to the next, unless someone breaks the cycle and seeks help

Toxic parents can create a cycle of abuse and dysfunction that is passed down from one generation to the next, unless someone breaks the cycle and seeks help

90. “For many children, any expression of feelings, even a single tear, is cause for more severe abuse. Again, the only recourse is to shut down. Feelings go underground.

– Laura Davis

Laura Davis Quote: “For many children, any expression of feelings, even a single tear, is cause for more severe abuse. Again, the only recourse is to shut down. Feelings go underground.”

91. “Whenever I have an argument with my sibling, my toxic parents always take his side against me, even if he is the wrong one

– Robert

Robert Quote: “Whenever I have an argument with my sibling, my toxic parents always take his side against me, even if he is the wrong one”

92. “Fear-based parenting is the surest way to create intimidated children.

– Tim Kimmel

Tim Kimmel Quote: “Fear-based parenting is the surest way to create intimidated children.”

93. “Children are not born for the benefit of their parents, neither are they the property of their family. Children belong to the future.

– Anthon St. Maarten

Anthon St. Maarten Quote: “Children are not born for the benefit of their parents, neither are they the property of their family. Children belong to the future.”
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